Living with Borderline Personality Disorder: How Self-Awareness Transformed My Life

By D'Âme Nature

When I recently discovered that I am on the spectrum of borderline personality disorder (BPD), it was both a relief and a moment of deep introspection. Finally, I had a term to explain the emotional intensity I’ve experienced for so long—the highs and lows in relationships and the immense empathy that I carry daily. But more than just a diagnosis, it allowed me to understand that BPD does not define me entirely. It's just a part of who I am, and by learning to accept it, I’ve found unique strengths that help me become the person I am today.

I share my experience not as a mental health professional, but as someone who lives this reality every day. It’s important to remember that if you believe you might have this disorder or any other condition, seeking a diagnosis from a mental health professional is essential. This article is not a substitute for expert advice or treatment, and I encourage you to follow your therapist’s recommendations if you wish to explore this aspect of your health.

What is BPD?

Borderline Personality Disorder is a mental health condition characterized by difficulty regulating emotions. It’s common for people with BPD to experience intense mood swings, a fear of abandonment, and challenges in maintaining stable relationships [source]. While these challenges can sometimes feel overwhelming, it’s also important to recognize that BPD comes with positive aspects—strengths that can be assets in everyday life.

The Positive Aspects of BPD

When discussing BPD, the focus is often on the difficulties. However, over time, I’ve learned to appreciate some positive traits associated with this disorder, and I think it’s important to share them.

• Deep Empathy: People with BPD often experience emotions more intensely, but this also allows us for a deep empathy for others. This ability to step into others’ shoes has always helped me form more meaningful, authentic connections, both personally and professionally.

• Creativity: Emotional intensity often fuels creativity. Moments of heightened emotion can serve as sources of inspiration, whether in problem-solving or in seeing the world in a different light.

• Intuition: Personally, I’ve always had the ability to sense others’ emotions before they express them. This intuition allows me to better understand others’ needs and provide support in a thoughtful way.

• Passion: When I commit to something, it’s with unwavering passion. While this passion can sometimes come across as intense, it drives me to pursue my goals with determination.

• Determination: Despite the challenges BPD can bring, I am determined to keep moving forward. This resilience helps me overcome life’s obstacles, even when they seem insurmountable.

• Adaptability: Given my past relationship disappointments, BPD has taught me to navigate the unpredictable and adapt quickly. Rather than letting change overwhelm me, I’ve learned to accept that some things are beyond our control—and that it’s okay to move forward, even if it means doing so alone.

• Authenticity: I’ve learned to be honest about what I feel and who I am. This openness allows me to create healthier personal and professional relationships, based on transparency and sincerity.

• Loyalty: Once a bond is formed, I am deeply loyal. This is a quality I value in myself because it allows me to build strong relationships rooted in trust and respect.

  
  

These traits not only define my experience with BPD but also shape how I interact with the world. Embracing these aspects of my personality has not only helped me better manage my emotions but also strengthen the connections with those around me.

Finding Balance

Living with BPD can be challenging, but it has also helped me get to know myself better. This self-awareness has taught me to find balance, to accept my emotional highs and lows, and to seek support when I need it. For me, this balance comes from a combination of self-awareness and support from qualified professionals.

If you find yourself relating to what I’ve shared, know that you are not alone. It’s important to talk about our experiences and connect with others. While BPD can feel isolating at times, seeking help and building relationships based on trust can make all the difference.

Final Thoughts

By sharing my experience with BPD, I hope to provide a bit of comfort and show that you are not alone on this journey. While I’m not a psychologist, as a certified naturopath, I can help you take care of your overall well-being in a holistic and long-term way. Holistic health, which includes balanced nutrition, stress management, natural therapies, and body care, is a gentle yet powerful approach to restoring balance in your life.

If you’re looking for natural ways to improve your mental and physical health in harmony with your lifestyle, I can guide you through this process. Whether it’s through personalized consultations, nutrition plans, or advice on natural products, I’m here to provide continuous support that respects your needs and goals. You can learn more about how I can help by clicking here and whenever you’re ready, you can book your first appointment here.

Take care of yourself, and remember—the key to well-being starts with listening to your inner you.